What is it to be Compassionate?

Deb Halvorson

The dictionary defines compassionate as “showing kindness and empathy to others.” So, to be a compassionate person all I need to do is show kindness and empathy to others, right? Sure. That's easy. Actually, it's not.

Many of us pick and choose who and what is deserving of our compassion. Most of the time it's not an intentional choice, we're not unkind people. But let's admit that it's much easier to be compassionate and kind when we agree with the morals and values of the people, place, or situation. Think about your views on religion, politics, reproductive rights, immigration, and welfare. Even if we 100% disagree with a person's politics or religion, can we still be compassionate, kind, and empathetic toward them? That's the test, isn't it? Honestly answer that question with no judgment - just answer it for yourself.

Compassion for others is a deliberate, intentional practice in which we expect nothing in return. It's unconditional. In the words of the Dalai Lama "If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion."

This week, let's deliberately practice compassion, especially toward those we disagree with or dislike. Notice what happens.

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